tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2167272838474555438.post1146494969512695352..comments2023-04-03T12:44:49.301+01:00Comments on Ose @ the verandah: Marriage or Wedding?divaosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01476521246981276306noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2167272838474555438.post-83507490203893778532011-10-27T01:45:32.718+01:002011-10-27T01:45:32.718+01:00This issue calls for an open conversation indeed. ...This issue calls for an open conversation indeed. Yemi, this is interesting. I wonder why girls would have to trade their happiness and peaceful living for marriage. Life is for living and not for endurance. Marriage is a choice and it is very painful when l see women enduring abuses of whatever nature in an 'ugly faced' marriage all in the name of satisfying our societal marrital norm. I link this habit to one big reason why our women are hypertensive - if it is not an abusive husband, then it is some hard to please inlaws. Lord help us!! - RonkieBabieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2167272838474555438.post-16978132565512720972011-10-26T22:48:46.478+01:002011-10-26T22:48:46.478+01:00Word! You speak the truth, ore. Be complete before...Word! You speak the truth, ore. Be complete before you enter a marriage for marriage will not complete you. I have not forgotten what it means to be Nigerian and African o. Can I even be allowed to forget? Even here in the UK, those expectations and traditions follow you. It becomes the shell you live in like a snail, so it cannot be removed or gotten rid of without the person dying or being damaged in some way. That's why I wrote that post in spite of it...like kilo ti e de na? Why is our culture like this? Here in the UK, you get treated like a leper within the naija community if you're single. If you're a single parent...it's even worse! God help us...we as a people need to get over this marriage by force thing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09467664797856391600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2167272838474555438.post-71814027478410312542011-10-26T21:25:42.964+01:002011-10-26T21:25:42.964+01:00Well said Yemi :-)Well said Yemi :-)AwesomeAfricanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03216972299554035110noreply@blogger.com